Divorce stories

My colleague has a friend who is a doctor. About 25 years ago she started seeing a married man, with children, who is also a doctor. They were on an on-off affair for a couple of years until the woman decided to end it completely. She moved to Australia from Scotland to get away from the him, only to discover that she was pregnant with his child. So she went back to Scotland, had the baby there, and started her on and off affair again. Apparently (I didn't know about this before), some people believe that it is impossible to conceive while the woman is breast feeding. The couple proved it wrong. The woman got pregnant again with the same man, who was still married to his wife. Sometimes people who are supposed to be smart are people who have the least common sense.

The same colleague has a brother who recently has left his wife for another (married) woman. The brother and the other woman have known each other for about 10 years. She has been "only a friend" to him for that period of time when he's thrown the question. He told his wife that the affair has only been going on for 1 year. However, the wife found 2 anniversary cards (this is how the she found out about the affair), 1 written by the husband and 1 by the other woman, both congratulating each other on their 9th anniversary. When the wife asked about it, he said that that's how long they have been close, and went on with his 1 year affair line. Nobody in the family believed it. 5 years ago, the husband asked their joint bank account to be separated.

I think money is one good indicator of infidelity. A cheater needs money for dates, presents, and those sorts of stuff he/she should be doing with or giving to his/her partner.

Anyway, my colleague also has a sister who is divorced. She and her husband went to this marriage counseling to resolve problems they had in their marriage (which obviously did not work). And the person they saw said that the time between someone having thoughts of a divorce and the time that person actually want a divorce is 7 years. So it pretty much adds up for the previous story.

I think marriage is a sacred thing. It should not be broken by any third, fourth, of any other party, despite how perfect the reasons underlying are... I also think that I need to hang out with younger colleagues.